Is FEAR driving your bus?
When our decisions and actions come from a fear based mentality, we try and play it safe. In fact, all we are doing is playing small, and closing ourselves off from learning and from opportunity.
What would your life be like if you were not afraid of failing?
Failing is what most of us fear. The fear of being judged, the fear of looking stupid, the fear of being a fraud, and the fear of losing money.
Fears prevent you from trying and from taking risks.
This is when you know that you are coming from a fear- based mentality:
- You focus on thinking that most things you desire are impossible to attain
- You worry that if you do go after what, you want you will fail.
- You focus on how others judge you and fear you will look stupid if you make a mistake?
- You would rather stick with something that isn’t working only because you fear the unknown?
- You ignore your intuition and the gnawing feeling that something must change?
- You would rather let fear of the unknown keep you from pursuing your dreams?
- You have the same conversation in your head, “As soon as I (you fill in the blank) I will be able to have the life I deserve”?
What happens when the voice in the back of your mind recalls that this isn’t the kind of life you wanted to live? It wants more, much more. It wants you to become far wealthier, to have richer and deeper relationships, to get your body in peak physical condition, to learn new skills, to travel the world, to have lots of wonderful friends, to help people in need, to make a meaningful difference. That voice tells you that settling into a job where you sell widgets the rest of your life to make someone else money just won’t cut it. That voice frowns at you when you catch a glance of your oversized belly in the mirror or get winded going up a flight of stairs. It beams disappointment when it sees what’s become of your family. It tells you that the reason you have trouble motivating yourself is that you aren’t doing what you really ought to be doing with your life… because you’re afraid. And if you refuse to listen, it will always be there, nagging you about your mediocre results until the end when you are full of regrets for what might have been.
Ask yourself, are you letting fear of the unknown keep you from pursuing the life you are meant to live?
The only thing holding you back from the impossible is that you call it impossible.
Here are three questions to ponder:
- What would it be like to focus on how possible it is rather than how impossible it is?
- What would you do if you knew you would not fail?
- What could you do today to take a risk and get closer to making your dreams for yourself and your family a reality?